1. It helps to be in a place where it’s socially acceptable to be a single professional. Now, instead of being the only single person, I find myself being one of the few Christians. Which puts things in perspective, of course. Singles should be where other singles are because we can minister in a unique way.
2. Sin will continue in my life whether married or not. If it’s not one sin it will be another. The Christian life is much messier than I ever imagined and sanctification far more complex.
3. Although the scripture teaches that marriage helps with purity, this does not mean marriage is promised for those who burn.
4. Finally, I am done waiting to be married. I am going to make decisions based on the scripture and my desire to serve God. Marriage is no longer a factor when making major decisions.
As I have learned these various lessons I find myself no longer desiring marriage like I used to. I would like to get married someday, but am fine if I don’t, for I no longer feel the necessity of marriage to do what I truly desire; to be a foster parent. This knowledge has freed me greatly to seek out the ministry God has called me to and that I desire to be apart of. I am most grateful to God for providing me with a new home in a bigger city, with a new job, and for teaching me his truth setting me free.