My views on dating are not popular amongst many of my friends and they might argue that’s why I am still single, but fact is most of them are too. As I began to think about why my views are so unpopular I realized that the reason lies in the answer to the question. I want marriage, a good marriage, but many of my friends and acquaintances really just want to be loved. Sure, they want marriage, but more than their desire for a healthy marriage is their desire to be loved and cared for, to not be lonely. This being so, they settle for less than the best for them and usually end up with a broken heart. You have seen this too, I am sure of it, or maybe you are the one who has done this, Lord knows this was me in high school. I want to challenge you to not be persuaded by the many arguments people will try to give you in regards to whatever standards you have and them being too high or unrealistic. Understand that most people are not thinking like you nor are they putting Christ first, and so they simply cannot understand you.
Many people have told me that my expectation in regards to movies and such is completely unrealistic, but I understand that if the person and I cannot agree on which movies are OK for us to watch now, it will be a problem later, especially when it comes to the children. So, I will not consider someone who is into to things like south park and all the rest. If you really want marriage you will consider these hard things that will ultimately leave you with no apparent matches, but you must trust that God is in control and that those who put their trust in Him will not be put to shame. Do not be afraid to make a list with hard things on it, things like doctrinal views, views on movies, giving, food, prayer, children, and of course money. (There are many more things to consider, these are just a few.) Know what you believe about these things and do not settle for less than the best match. I gladly anticipate the day I get to let God put all of those who doubted me and mocked me to shame. I hope and pray my love story will truly be an example of God’s greatness and will prove that good things, really good things, come to those who wait.
P.s. I think the real reason we don’t hear more of those amazing love stories that showcase God’s greatness is because people are not willing to wait and let God work. If you want a good love story, my friend, you must wait.