Look to the examples of others, but fix your eyes on Christ. Whenever, there is a discussion about something turn first to the scriptures to defend your view, not to a personal example. I do not have it all right and neither does anyone else, so seek Christ’s example especially described within the scriptures. Remember, just because a godly mature believer says or does something does not make it right. We are all sinners saved by grace in need of God to reveal himself and will to us.