My friend, I can only imagine the hurt you feel. Living with a broken heart is never easy. I have had a few myself, though none like yours I’m sure. There are several things I’d like to say to you. I hope you will let me say it all; knowing that I love you and only want the best for you.
I’d like to remind you once again to lean on your Heavenly Father. He can and will comfort you like no one else. When my high school boyfriend broke up with me I expected to be completely hopeless and heartbroken, but instead I found a comfort like no other. It was not that I was not heartbroken; but that the Lord comforted me. I could hardly believe how comforted I was! All the other heartbreaks were far worse and I dated those guys for far less time! So they really shouldn’t have been worse. How could it be? By the love of Jesus, of course!
It took me awhile to be over him completely, but the more I put my mind on Christ the more peace I had and the less pain I felt. I know this can be true for you too; if your mind is stayed on Christ. There is the temptation to be busy all the time so that you are distracted when you have a broken heart, but it will not lead to peace. I am reminded of a poem by Amy Carmichael, here is a verse from it.
“He said, "I will crowd action upon action,
The strife of faction shall stir me and sustain;
O tears that drown the fire of manhood, cease."
But vain the word; vain, vain:
Not in endeavor lieth peace.”
Her point in the poem is that in acceptance lies peace, not in being busy. I personally struggle with this. How do we accept what God has given us and still serve him? I don’t really have an answer yet; other than to fix my eyes upon Jesus. I do know that when I am quiet before the Lord I find peace like no other. Just this morning I was in tears because of a boy (of course) and the Lord lifted me up and has filled me with peace. Open His word and ask him to sanctify you in truth and you will find peace. Believe in his promises that you read about and act upon them; trusting that He will never fail you. Be disciplined in your quiet time; it is essential to having an intimate relationship with your Bridegroom. Let Him be your first love and only love.
| Here is a video I have found to be encouraging whenever I feel broken hearted. In fact, I cried myself to sleep one night listening to it on repeat. |